Homophobia: That’s So (Gay?)

A wise bunny by the name of Thumper once said “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”. If only this was the case within contemporary society.


As I have grown and become the person I am today, I have sadly witnessed discrimination against people who may not be categorised as society’s ‘norm’.

Why is it that difference is despised? That uniqueness is rejected?

One thing, which I struggle to grasp is the concept of homophobia.

Personally, I have been lucky enough to have minimal interaction with homophobic individuals though I know of others who have not been as lucky.

One’s sexuality can be as simple and common as their eye colour. It is just a part of you: you can’t explain why it is that you may have green eyes or why you may find yourself attracted to the same gender. However, at the end of the day you shouldn’t have to explain it.

Sometimes something as minuscule as ‘that’s so gay’ can be felt to have homophobic connotations.

When did gay become a derogatory term or a word associated with a negative experience?

I can only wonder how the majority of straight people would react if I were to say “Oh my God. That is so straight!” as I expressed my disproval over something.

Personally, I do let this one slide under the carpet sometimes as I know people may not necessarily mean it in a homophobic context. That being said, it doesn’t feel too great, as I am sure you understand.

If you do find yourself in a dangerous situation, where homophobia may rise it’s ugly head, it may be best to just walk away. It is not worth lowering yourself to their level.

And maybe instead, if you are unsure or feel uneasy around someone who identifies differently to your own identity, sexuality or gender, you should get to know them. Ask questions. Learn.

At the end of the day, human experience is the key. We all breathe the same air and have the same heart. We are all a little unique.

Just remember:

You are not homophobic. You’re not scared. You’re an arse.